Empathy is a basic human quality of the heart, like love and compassion.
If you resist it… if you think it’s an impediment, chances are you’re resisting the other qualities of the heart too. Not to mention other emotions. And if you’re not… if you’re thinking you’re capable of loving and being loved without opening to empathy, you’ll likely be sorely disappointed. Not many people will stay in relationship with someone who doesn’t care about their problems. Those who will, will make your life miserable.
Empathy isn’t a burden. It’s a gift you give others. Just like the gift others give you when you have problems and need someone to talk to.