What three things that happened to you in the past week are you thankful for?

I processed the reasons I’d been procrastinating on a project, and since found it a wonderful source of creative expression. Approaching my work on it each day now with joy and enthusiasm.

The hot weather where I live has been cooling down recently.

I’ve meditated immediately on arising 3 times – rather than after my morning coffee. I appreciate that when I do that, my mind goes to stillness more quickly and profoundly. Setting a stretch goal to do it 3 times or more in the coming week

How can I have a better relation with myself so that I can feel less alone and less bored when I’m not seeking distractions or social interactions?

An age-old question. Who are we when we’re not doing, and simply being?

Most of us don’t know, because doing is Read more

Is gratitude connected along with maturity?

I’d say moreso with emotional maturity than with advancing age. Though that may be true also.

Cultivating emotional maturity has a tendency to peel back layers of deeply hidden false beliefs like peeling an onion. I happen to believe that beneath those layers is, within each of us, a magnificent god-being that progressively reveals itself as we do our emotional “work”.

And when the light of that revelation begins to seep out of the inner darkness, gratitude and joy just naturally follow.


Do you think having a purpose is a real thing, or should a person just do whatever his heart desires?

Personally, I think discovering a mission of service, or purpose that serves the greater good, is a useful guide to living a meaningful life.

It serves as a benchmark for the contributions one is making to humanity. For instance, Read more

How does being vulnerable affect how people can connect?

Your level of vulnerability with yourself and others is the foundation for the depth, quality, and intimacy of every connection – including with yourself.


It takes vulnerability to acknowledge that you’ve made mistakes. That you feel resultant guilt or shame (instead of repressing and ignoring your feelings), for example. Read more

As a sensitive person prone to intense emotions, how do you promote emotional health?

I’ve responded to a similar question previously. You can find it HERE.

Cultivating emotional maturity will improve every aspect of one’s life. You’ll become more stable and resilient. You’ll have better health, less stress and anxiety. You’ll literally increase your lifespan.

Good luck!


Do you believe a person with hate or anguish in their heart can truly be happy? What’s your reasoning?

It’s highly unlikely that someone harboring hate or anguish will be happy. Until life gets so miserable and deals up so much shit that they finally surrender.

Surrender is Read more

Why do so many men lack empathy?

Great question, thanks!

Actually, empathy is only one of many traits that men lack, that stems from repressing any emotion except anger.

Western society devalues emotions. So many messages – particularly for men – that emotions are somehow to be denied and ignored. Did you ever hear any of these? Read more

Why does one feel so empty in life despite being successful?

I feel your pain. I spent a lotta years of my life with that sensation. Thankfully, I transcended it. Now I know that if you’re feeling empty, chances are your idea of success is cattywampus – as mine was.

If you define success as making a lot of money or owning a lot of things, you’ve bought into consumer programming. And so you spend your energy chasing dollars and thingies, thinking that should make you happy.

Meanwhile, real life success – happiness, fun, meaning, ease and grace – eludes you.

I got news for you. Read more

What one thing could you do every day to be a better human being?

Start a daily practice that includes meditation and gratitude journaling. In just 21 days you’ll notice a shift that will just keep getting bigger and better as you continue your practices.

Lots of my other responses here speak to the why and how of doing these. Look ’em up if you choose.