What three things that happened to you in the past week are you thankful for?

I processed the reasons I’d been procrastinating on a project, and since found it a wonderful source of creative expression. Approaching my work on it each day now with joy and enthusiasm.

The hot weather where I live has been cooling down recently.

I’ve meditated immediately on arising 3 times – rather than after my morning coffee. I appreciate that when I do that, my mind goes to stillness more quickly and profoundly. Setting a stretch goal to do it 3 times or more in the coming week

How can I have a better relation with myself so that I can feel less alone and less bored when I’m not seeking distractions or social interactions?

An age-old question. Who are we when we’re not doing, and simply being?

Most of us don’t know, because doing is Read more

Is gratitude connected along with maturity?

I’d say moreso with emotional maturity than with advancing age. Though that may be true also.

Cultivating emotional maturity has a tendency to peel back layers of deeply hidden false beliefs like peeling an onion. I happen to believe that beneath those layers is, within each of us, a magnificent god-being that progressively reveals itself as we do our emotional “work”.

And when the light of that revelation begins to seep out of the inner darkness, gratitude and joy just naturally follow.


What have you watched or heard recently that made you feel extremely grateful and lucky to have what you have today?

I suppose my sense of gratitude is influenced by outer events that are perceived by the senses. But for me, the deeper sense of gratitude follows from taking time for reflecting on what’s within. When I connect with my inner self, I’m better able to appreciate what presents in the outer world. For what is today.

I hope that’s not too woo-woo for you! (Smile)


Do people perform better if you think and speak positively towards them? Does the opposite hold true?

Yes, of course – in most cases. If your self-esteem is intact, receiving validation from others serves to reinforce it, thus increasing your potential for success in a given endeavor.

The opposite – negative outside messages – will tend to depress one’s performance if one has average self-esteem.

What does self-esteem have to do with this? Read more

Have you had a negative event happen to you that turned out to be very positive down the road?

Several failed relationships. The ending of each was traumatic at the time, regardless of which of us made the decision to end it.

I’ve heard it said that Read more

Why do so many men lack empathy?

Great question, thanks!

Actually, empathy is only one of many traits that men lack, that stems from repressing any emotion except anger.

Western society devalues emotions. So many messages – particularly for men – that emotions are somehow to be denied and ignored. Did you ever hear any of these? Read more

What’s your view on hell?

Hell is the state of mind you experience in life when you are not happy with yourself. If you’re Read more

Why does one feel so empty in life despite being successful?

I feel your pain. I spent a lotta years of my life with that sensation. Thankfully, I transcended it. Now I know that if you’re feeling empty, chances are your idea of success is cattywampus – as mine was.

If you define success as making a lot of money or owning a lot of things, you’ve bought into consumer programming. And so you spend your energy chasing dollars and thingies, thinking that should make you happy.

Meanwhile, real life success – happiness, fun, meaning, ease and grace – eludes you.

I got news for you. Read more

What one thing could you do every day to be a better human being?

Start a daily practice that includes meditation and gratitude journaling. In just 21 days you’ll notice a shift that will just keep getting bigger and better as you continue your practices.

Lots of my other responses here speak to the why and how of doing these. Look ’em up if you choose.