How powerful is writing to do lists and gratitude lists every day?

I’ll respond specifically about gratitude lists. Because my life circumstances reflect an emphasis on deeply feeling gratitude for what is for the last 10 years or so. And, as I’ve expressed gratitude for what is, I’ve been rewarded with deeper and broader experiences of what I appreciate.

If you don’t have a daily gratitude practice, I would heartily recommend you start one. Here’s a few reasons why. Read more

What proof have you had of life after death?

No one has proof of life after death.

Nor does anyone have proof that there’s a god. Or a devil. Or heaven or hell. Or extraterrestrial beings.

Yet many of us choose to believe in these.

On the other hand. Read more

Is a highly intelligent person more likely to be immoral/unethical? If they question everything, including concepts of right and wrong, would they care less about being a “good” person?

Wow I’ve never seen a question where there are so many generalizations!

From where do you draw your generalization about psychopaths tending to be highly intelligent? That assumption goes against the grain of everything I’ve read. Albert Einstein, for instance, was said to have very high emotional intelligence as well as intellectual intelligence. And, many of the recent mass murderers in the USA are of average or below average intelligence.

I would agree that psychopaths tend to have low levels of emotional intelligence. They’d have to, in order to be as cruel as they are to their victims.

There is no statistical evidence that I’m aware of that emotional and intellectual intelligence are at opposite poles, as you suggest. I would venture to guess that the two would seem more often to go hand in hand.


How do you know whether you actually suck or if you just think you do because you have poor self esteem?

If you’re debating this with yourself, your self esteem could use some work.

People with high self esteem don’t use the term “suck” when they think about themselves.

They know their weaknesses – or at least, most of them. And, they know where they’re strong.

They listen to feedback from others, and discern if there’s an element of truth to it. Others may see something about one that he/she can’t see themselves. If they decide it may be true, they will usually take action to address it. And, if they discern that the other person is projecting or judging, they won’t take it on. It won’t have the slightest effect on their self esteem.


How can I help my partner improve his emotional IQ without him even understanding what emotional IQ is and its importance?

Sorry to break it to you, but most likely, you can’t.

You can’t fix anyone else. They have to want it for themselves. If you Read more

Do you control your attitude, or does your attitude control you?

The simple answer is yes. I’ll explain.

It’s entirely possible to manage and direct your attitude. And your state of mind (your attitude) informs and guides the way you show up in the world.

One of the easiest ways to Read more

What language should the subliminal message be in? Can we use English subliminal for a person who doesn’t speak English?

I presume you’re talking about the language of dreams or altered space? Otherwise, I don’t know what “subliminal messages” means.

Dreams are Read more

I have depression and I try to be productive but it’s a struggle because I have to battle against my negativity to get things done. How can I overcome this negativity to lead a better life?

If you’re battling, you’re attempting to use force of will to suppress your negative thoughts.

You can’t win that battle, as you’ve already seen. If your mind is given to entertaining negative thoughts, you might try using personal power techniques rather than force of will.

Here is Read more

What is self-esteem? What causes it?

Hundreds (thousands?) of books have been written about self-esteem and how to cultivate it.

Self-esteem is how we feel about ourselves. If we feel good about ourselves… if we acknowledge our goodness, the love we express and receive, and our supportive words and acts toward others, we’re said to have high self-esteem.

On the other hand, if we have recurring thoughts about ourselves as less than, or not enough without taking any action to resolve such thoughts or prove them wrong, we’re said to have low self-esteem.

How to cultivate high self-esteem? Read more

If your thoughts are energy that can manifest then does this reveal that the world is corrupt due to excessive negative thoughts?

I’ll give you my opinion only.

The source of many of the wrongs of the world – poverty, famine, war, pollution, climate change for examples – are based on greed and hunger for power.

Both are purely self-serving, and require developing an insensitivity to the effect of one’s actions on others.

As a species, we have failed to hold accountable those who conquer and dominate in service to money and power. And so we suffer the consequences.

So my short answer is that you’re absolutely correct. Greed and hunger for money – even at the expense of others – is certainly what I’d call negative thought.