Why should I bother having empathy for others when it’s just going to be an impediment?

Empathy is a basic human quality of the heart, like love and compassion. Read more

Is it possible to judge a behaviour as intelligent or not?

I’m imagining that your question isn’t so much about judging as it is about discerning. Sorry to be a word cop, but I think of the word judging as critical… and that doesn’t seem to be the context of your question. Read more

In one sentence, what is critical thinking?

It’s applying the mind’s faculty of reasoning to a new idea presented to you.

More sentences. Read more

What is the one thing you do that most people don’t?

I create the world around me with my mind. Nearly every day. Read more

Why, when people are at their most vulnerable and needy, are they viewed (by some) as being repulsive?

Public drama is never attractive (at least to me). I have a relative who posts on Facebook every aspect of her impending divorce, and her depression around it. Some of her friends respond with supportive comments, and I’m sure they care. But for me, public drama is extremely unattractive. I don’t see it so much as being vulnerable as it is a neediness for attention. In other words, the need to get something from others in an expectation that it’ll somehow make her feel better. That’s what I call “vampire energy”: taking from others in order to feel better. Read more

Why are so many people afraid of being vulnerable?

I can’t speak to everyone’s experience… but I think it’s fair to say that if others have exploited our vulnerability in the past, we might be a bit wary of being vulnerable again.

Some view vulnerability as a sign of weakness. But the truth is, vulnerability takes courage. It means we’re exposing ourself to another, for the purpose of having a more open-hearted, transparent dialog that may well lead to any one of a number of positive outcomes. For instance: Read more

What’s the difference between emotional intelligence and social intelligence?

Very different! Social intelligence is defined by Wikipedia as “the capability to effectively navigate and negotiate complex social relationships and environments”.

Emotional intelligence, however, is our capability to access and acknowledge our feelings. How do you know when you’re feeling mad, sad, glad, fear, shame or guilt? Can you find the place in your body where it shows up? (I’ve given some examples of this in another response HERE. Read more

Why hasn’t life changed for the best?

Not a lot of information here. But what I pickup in your post feels to me like what I’ll call “victim energy”. Where you might feel you’re a victim of circumstances. Read more

Is it possible to judge a behaviour as intelligent or not?

I’m imagining that your question isn’t so much about judging as it is about discerning. Sorry to be a word cop, but I think of the word judging as critical… Read more

Where do people go when they die?

Fascinating range of responses to this question!

Many view the “I” as their body, and go on to describe what would happen to their body after death.

Some responded as if there were some sort of last opportunity to do something or go somewhere worldly after death.

Some responded as per the dogmatic teachings of their particular religion. Read more