Your honesty and integrity is of no use if you haven’t done anything beneficial to me. What would be your reply?

I don’t maintain honesty and integrity for your benefit. I do it for my own benefit.

Whether or not it means anything to you is not my least concern.

And if me doing something for you is the only way you’ll recognize me, I really don’t want you in my sphere.

How important is EQ?

In order to understand the value of emotional intelligence, I’ll use an analogy. Read more

How do you get over the fear of vulnerability and rejection?

You might not like this answer. But honestly, the way to move beyond it is to lean into it. Read more

Is EQ basically about emotion regulation?

No, not at all. In fact, it’s just the opposite. Let me explain. Read more

What is the best way to communicate with a dominant person?

Respectfully, the first thing to notice is that your question is full of your personal judgments, rather than facts about your friend. You find her a know-it-all, but others may possibly find her very smart, and solicit her informed opinions.

And, that doesn’t make you wrong. But if you really want to develop a closer bond with your friend, here’s an idea. Read more

How does one explain “vulnerability”?

Vulnerability is being completely transparent about what’s on your mind… Read more

How can we improve our emotional intelligence? What are the benefits?

I can’t speak to the best way, I can speak to my own personal experience…and what I’ve seen work for many other men.

16 years ago I was initiated into The Mankind Project, a worldwide brotherhood of 60,000+ men seeking to “change the world, one man at a time”. (

There are four values MKP holds sacred for men: Read more

What one sentence can change a life?

Realize that everything – everything you see around you is a product of your thinking; that if you don’t like what you see, then you can change it quickly by changing your thinking.

Bonus sentence, from A Course in Miracles: a miracle is no more than a change of mind; and can happen in an instant.

Integrity and responsibility, which one is more important?

There’s no absolute answer to that question, it’s entirely subjective. But here’s one perspective. Read more

What is the edgiest thing in the world?

Coming into full knowing (beyond believing) of your mind’s incredible power to co-create with the universe your entire experience of life.

This is the Law of Attraction. Everything we see around us is a product of the predominant thoughts we hold in mind.

The entire universe is at our service, when we master the principles of this metaphysical law.